When it comes to how satisfied we are in our relationships, depends on a variety of factors influencing our lives. One of the important characteristics of a healthy relationship is the couples ability to communicate. Or maybe not, according to a new study.
According to a study done in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers have said that there is a time in a relationships when withdrawing from one’s spouse can create a better feeling of satisfaction in couples that have a low income.
Overall couples need to communicate, it is one of the key factors to a fulfilling and happy relationship. Although that does not mean that a couple has to spend every waking hour with their significant other or agree to everything they said. This is why compromise is a key component in a relationship.
“Consider this example: A wife requests that her husband ask for a raise at work. For a husband in a low-wage job with less job security, that is a risky proposition. By showing reluctance to ask for the raise [and thus withdrawing from her], he can preserve his self-esteem and lessen emphasis on the couple’s vulnerable financial situation,” said lead author Jaclyn M. Ross in a statement. “For a wealthier couple in the same situation, the wife may perceive that the husband is unwilling to make a sacrifice for his family and that can cause friction in the relationship.”
See how it the type of couples might react to the situation differently, the low-income couple is accepting of the choice might while the wealthier one perceives it as being selfish in a way. The wife that has a low income can understand her husband’s plight and respect his decision because she understands their financial situation because she would rather live with her husbands current wage instead of risking him losing it and making their financial situation worse.
This is further support in another study, focused on 515 straight “couples who had at least one child or were expecting and had been married for an average of five years. Forty percent were at or below the poverty line. Over the course of 18 months, researchers visited their homes and asked the couple what they wanted to change in themselves and in the relationship. Affluent couples who experienced demand-withdraw interactions saw their relationship status go down overall, while lower-income couples not only maintained a stable relationship status quo, but also had their satisfaction decline when the husband did not withdraw.”
This shows that compromise is key to a healthy relationship where couples can respect their significant other decisions and decide to withdraw to have time for themselves. You have to remember that a couple is not one person but two different people who have their own lives with different values, views, backgrounds,ect..
This is why it is someone times, okay to withdraw from your significant other because you have your own life, just because you are married doesn’t mean you have to stay attached to the hip. Likewise if your significant other does not respect your decision and try to control your actions it is going to create conflict and strain the relationship and may lead to it ending. My main point here is that a healthy relationship between two people is where you both have mutual respect for each other, care for one other, be able to compromise and can live independently.
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