Sometimes it is not easy to get pregnant; for many couples, it can take some time. Here are 7 ways you can give yourself some self care following the disappointment you will inevitably feel when the pregnancy test comes back negative.
The longer it takes to get pregnant the more emotion is invested when you take every pregnancy test. As time moves on and the tests keep on coming back negative it is easy to get more and more frustrated.
Many women start to worry that they will never get pregnant and this can upset their relationship with their partners and their faith in their own body. If this sounds familiar and the reality of another negative pregnancy test is taking its toll, here are 7 helpful ways to deal with the stress.
Have a Plan
It is often easier to cope with disappointments if you know what your next step will be. Depending on your own situation it could be as simple as planning to see the doctor if the next test comes back negative.
If things have gone on for a long time and you have already taken the step of having further tests, it may be that you want to consider intrauterine insemination or other assisted means of conceiving.
- Build a Support Network.
Tell some closer friends or relatives that you are taking a pregnancy test. These are the people you can lean on if you suffer another disappointment.
It is likely that both yourself and your partner will experience the disappointment in different ways so it helps if you both have people who are good at listening and who avoid cliches like, ‘it just wasn’t the right time’ which are simply not helpful.
There are formal support groups available in most localities and for those more private individuals, an online forum may provide the anonymized support they need.
- Get The Facts
It may be a cliché but knowledge really is power so find out some facts. For example, it may help to know that for many couples it takes between nine and twelve months to finally conceive.
If you are expecting to fall pregnant on month one, you might want to be a little more realistic. If you have been trying for a while look at having sperm tests or check that your fallopian tubes are clear instead of worrying about what-ifs. There are other tests for fertility too, so find out what these are and ask about them.
- Lift your mood
Think about some of the things that make you happy – it might be a favorite TV show or a good book. If you surround yourself with things you love and enjoy it can help take a little of the anxiety, stress, and sting out of receiving another negative test result.
- Get Proactive
Many people feel more empowered if they do something to affect their situation.
In this case, perhaps taking up a new healthy eating program, or starting a gentle exercise regime will mean you feel you are doing everything you can to create a healthy environment for a baby to grow. Having direction and focus can be a huge mental boost while waiting to conceive.
- Continue your normal activities
Keep doing all the things you are passionate about and enjoy. If you are experiencing problems conceiving it becomes more important to focus on positive and meaningful activities in other areas of your life.
- Accept that you are grieving
If you are trying for a much-wanted child and you are receiving a negative test result each month you will be going through a protracted grieving process. Each month you will be mourning the loss of that potential child and then have to do it all over again within a very short space of time.
If this is wearing you down emotionally it may be time to seek out a counselor who specializes in helping with the emotional side of fertility issues.