I’m going to be 100% honest and say that I had no idea what to expect when I first became a dad. I was never raised around babies, and I never thought about being a parent. My wife and I planned the pregnancy, but it was still a big shock to me.
I can’t say why it was. I knew that we were trying to have a baby, and I also knew my wife was pregnant. I think the one thing that caught me off guard was the fact that the pregnancy was very difficult. My wife was in the hospital for several weeks on end, and it was a very stressful time for me.
The stress ended after my wife gave birth
The stress that the two of us faced was now different. But, at least the pregnancy was over. I felt at ease, knowing that our daughter was healthy. That doesn’t mean that anything after birth was easy.
Anyone who has ever had a baby knows that it’s not easy in the slightest. There’s so much work involved, and it never seems to end. But, at least, all of the stuff with the pregnancy was over with. I could let out a sigh of relief knowing that every day, something terrible couldn’t happen.
I forgot to mention that a little over a year before my wife gave birth, we lost a baby. I’ll never forget the moment my wife found out. She looked at me and said that this was the worst day of her life.
I felt so many different emotions that I don’t know how to describe them all. All of this was always in the back of our minds as she went through the pregnancy. I just wanted all of it to be over so that we could move onto the next phase. But, we both knew what happened before, and it certainly could happen again.
I’ve never once felt this sort of happiness
The surprising thing about being a parent is watching your child develop into an actual human. Anyone who has seen the growing process first-hand knows what I’m talking about. You take them home, and they don’t have much in the way of personality.
A few weeks later, you see some smiles, and you try your best to make them smile. But, it’s not until they get a little older than your child starts to develop character. You can begin to see the person they are becoming.
It’s like watching a flower open up in time-lapse photography. Every day is a wonderful adventure if you’re willing to allow yourself to experience it.
My life is all about smiles
I try my best to put a smile on my daughter’s face. I know that not everything in life is smiles and giggles. I’ve learned that the pursuit of happiness is one of the most important things. Any time you’re not feeling happy, it’s time to make a change.
The smile of my daughter has turned me into a better person. I care more about my relationship with my wife and the life that we’re building together. For the first time, I feel like a man and not a child. It’s hard to put into words the impact that happiness has on a person.
I can only say that it has changed me in a way that I never imagined possible.
Happiness isn’t a mystery
I spent an entire lifetime, wondering what happiness is. I never thought that I’d find joy in being a family man. I feel whole. I feel complete. I’m sure there are those who think differently than I do. It is a lot of hard work, and there are plenty of sleepless nights.
No one ever said that happiness is easy. Achieving happiness has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever experienced. But it’s so worth it. What’s the alternative? To live an easy life that’s filled with anything but happiness?
That’s not living at all. Such a life is only existing and nothing else. You should judge the quality of your life by the number of smiles on your face. Laugh lines are worth more than gold, and anyone who says differently has no idea what happiness is all about.
The great adventure is only beginning
I look forward to my life with my daughter. My wife and I are planning on having another child. There is no greater sense of fulfillment than working hard to make everyone around you happy. The smile of a child is addictive, and so is their laugh.
No person should spend their life not knowing what happiness is all about. The life of someone who hasn’t experienced pure joy is sourer than a lemon. I wouldn’t change a single thing, and I hope my life continues in the same way.
My wish for the world is that they experience the joy of parenthood and the fulfillment that only being a parent can deliver.