This is a conversation that my wife and I have quite a bit. I’m the type of person who doesn’t care in the least about gender color codes. I think they’re outdated and stigmatize people in a pretty silly way.
Some of that may be because I’m color blind on some level. I wouldn’t say color blind; I think the real term is color “weakness”. I can’t pick out colors as most people do. So, red and brown look similar to me depending on the shade and lighting. This may also play a role in my take in all of this.
We went to buy a baby stroller
My wife and I are going on our first family vacation together. We’re flying a few hours and realized that we would need a baby stroller that can be taken on the plane. So, my wife researched online where to buy a stroller that collapses and can be put in the overhead bin.
Much to our surprise, there’s a shop selling such a stroller about a twenty-minute walk from us. All three of us walked to the shop and checked out the strollers.
My wife and the saleswoman said we shouldn’t buy the blue stroller
We looked around at the strollers, and the saleswoman was quite helpful. She and my wife noticed that I was looking at the blue stroller. The saleswoman said that blue wasn’t the right choice because we have a daughter and my wife agreed.
What did I think? Well, I thought that was a bunch of baloney. Who said that only boys can only have a blue stroller? I’ll be honest and say to me that’s the dumbest thing that I’ve ever heard in my life. Why couldn’t a boy have a pink stroller?
What if it was a hand me down from his older sister? It baffles me why anyone would care about the color of anything.
Luckily, I liked the yellow stroller the best
I felt like I got lucky when I saw they had a yellow stroller and it was the same as the blue one, what I wanted more than anything was to get a high-quality stroller that isn’t cheaply made. The other colors of strollers were cheaper, and I felt they weren’t of the same quality.
I didn’t want to settle for a lesser quality stroller just because it wasn’t the right color. I want a stroller that functions properly and not a hunk of junk. So, color, it was an afterthought to me. But, I got lucky, and the yellow one was perfect.
I don’t put up a fight when it comes to gender colors
Yes, I think they’re stupid. Way stupid beyond belief. But, I don’t argue about it or anything like that. I pass the judgment off to my wife. If there’s something she feels that must not be blue for a girl, then we get a different color.
If it’s up to me, then I get whatever color or product that I feel is the best. I find it to be a rather cut and dry situation really. But, it’s not that way for someone who thinks that color matters when it comes to gender.
This is one of those areas that I really don’t spend too much time thinking about. I’m the type of person who likes to go with the flow. You find areas in parenting and marriage that are best dealt with my simply agreeing.
A blue coat is for boys and not girls? Well, I guess we’ll have to buy a different coat. I find that being stubborn about the small things isn’t the best way to go about being a husband and a parent. Some people like to argue for the sake of hearing their own voice, but I’m not one of them.
Go with your gut and leave it at that
Do you and your spouse care about what colors your child wear? If so, then dress them in blue for boys and pink for girls. If not, then do whatever. Anything that makes your life less complicated is better. This is one of those personal preference things, and that’s it.
Anyone who thinks that a boy wearing pink will harm him is a fool. It’s a color and nothing more than that. It’s funny how people seem to focus on the smallest most insignificant things.
Instead of worrying about if your daughter should wear blue, just be a good parent. Forget all that stuff and go to bed at night knowing that you’ve done the best you could do to raise your child.
I hope none of this comes across as harsh. There are some things in today’s world that I find astonishing. This is one of them. If it’s important for you, then dress your child accordingly. I pass the judgment to my wife and live with the consequences.
I don’t care what the color of the clothes my daughter wears as long as they’re high quality. But, I’m only one half of the equation, and the other half’s opinion is as important as mine. Though, when it comes to color gender codes, often her opinion overrides mine, and I’m okay with that.