When it comes to raising children, one thing that parents will be (all too) aware of is how hard it can be to impose discipline. We don’t want to shout at our kids, but at the same time we don’t want to let them run wild and without any boundaries.
When you worry that this might be the case, we highly recommend that you consider raising your children using the following three techniques. Used in the right way, they could help to instill discipline where previously very little existed!
Setting the correct example
The first thing that you need to do is lead by example to help set the boundaries for your children. They should be able to see what you do and then take an example and lead from it. If you cannot do this, then it does become much harder for your children to understand when they are acting correctly, and when they have messed up.
For example, if you tell a white lie – saying you are ‘working’ to avoid a social event, for example – tell your children why you chose this path. Children pick up so many social cues from their parents, that if you fail to explain little things like this it can plant a negative seed in their mind from a very young age.
Therefore, be prepared to set the right example and, when needed, explain why you have made a decision.
Praise their development
Another powerful technique is to ensure that your children are adequately praised for doing something right. Praising their ability to be good and honest is essential. You should look to do this, and make sure that they understand that, ninety-nine times out of one hundred, honesty is the best policy.
Make sure they are rewarded for honesty, and that they know that it was the right thing to do. Make your children aware of the consequences of dishonesty, so that they can be prepared for any potential backlash later in life.
Always encourage your children to be honest
Lastly, we recommend that you make honesty the house policy. Tell your children that you will never anger with them or shout at them for making mistakes. Instead, so long as they are honest about why they made a mistake, you will support them in their development.
You need to create a policy that allows your children to be free to learn and to experiment in life – but not to be duplicitous and to cover their mistakes.
Failure is OK, lying is not. Make sure your children know that you will never be angry at them for making a mistake, but you will be furious if they tell a lie. Honesty in failure is a much better trait to teach our kids than telling them that they should be unable to admit defeat or failure.
We all make mistakes in life, so make sure your children know that mistakes are acceptable.