When it comes to learning from the rich and the famous, it’s easy to be cynical. Seeing marriage advice and tips on how to live a healthy life from people with more money than they could ever know what to do with can feel pretty rich (pardon the pun).
After all, it must be easy to have a simple life when you have enough money to do whatever you want, whenever you want, right?
Still, while this might be a valid (if pessimistic) viewpoint, it’s not really going to help you too much. For example, we could learn a lot from the marriage of Melinda and Bill Gates.
The duo has enjoyed a very successful marriage, and a large part of that success comes from their ability to share chores and make their marriage as equal as is possible.
Despite being hyper-busy philanthropists, the duo still finds time to do some pretty basic stuff at home that keeps them grounded and normal. It’s an interesting one and was recently picked up when Mrs. Gates gave a very interesting interview to Business Insider.
Left Alone With the Dishes
In a wide-reaching interview, she touches on quite a few important points. For example, it all started when Bill and the kids would do what most families do; escape the kitchen and leave the dishwashing to you-know-who!
As Melinda noted, though, this wasn’t exactly fair or practical. So, as she explained: “So one night we stood up after dinner and people in the family started to melt away, like, off they go upstairs. So hand on my hips, I’m, like, ‘Nobody leaves the kitchen until I leave the kitchen!’”
“What happens is that last 15 minutes gets divvied up really fast.
“And then five minutes later we all go upstairs. So I think we just have to sometimes name these extra invisible things that people don’t even see that we do as women.”
It’s a simple but effective tactic and one that seems to have had a major impact on the quality of their relationship. By not allowing the rhetoric to become about one person having ‘jobs’ over the other, the load is shared.
It’s a very interesting perspective and one that should give you a brilliant appreciation of just how hard it can be to make life at home feel equal: no matter how much cash you have in the bank.
If you want to know more about Melinda and her awesome tips for making a more equal marriage, she’s got a new book coming out. Titled “The Moment of Life: How Empowering Women Changes The World,” this book is going to be a major help to many women who just want to create a more equal, enjoyable home.
If you aren’t being respected and given enough help at home, you are more than within your rights to demand assistance. With the help of the great ideas of Melinda – starting with her simple but effective example above – that could become just a bit easier!