Kids are always asking questions, some are easy to explain while others can leave parents in a mode of panic! Probably one of the most difficult questions that will hit parents at some point in time, “Where Do Babies Come From?”
In many cases, if Mom is pregnant, their child will notice a big change and will pop the question. How does Mom respond when standing in line at the grocery store and still feel some sense of dignity? This really is a very difficult question for parents to answer, especially when they know they cannot call on the stork for support.
The Question Can Pop Up At Any Given Time:
Parents are constantly confronting this situation and have talked about it in parent groups or with their pediatricians. Pediatricians often suggest talking about it as much as possible within the age frame of your child and the level of development.
You need to approach this question in a way that will not frighten your child or leaving them unable to digest this information. Let’s face it, talking to a child between the ages of 2 and 4, will be different from a conversation you would have with an older child who is in their early adolescent years. Older kids have a better idea about their bodies and relationships.
First hearing the question, most parents will be taken aback a bit but will find a way to come up with a satisfactory response. Parents need to know they are 100% able to talk about where babies come from and will actually do better than even they thought they could.
It’s really advisable that you do not hang on to the old stork story, lying is really not going to satisfy kids for very long and sooner or later, you will have to answer questions in a way that your kids will understand and be satisfied with your answer. Parents should encourage their kids to ask complicated questions such as where babies come from.
Dr. Berlan suggests that when talking to a younger child, answer the question in very simple terms. If you are not prepared, you can say that’s a good question and you will think about it and you will talk about it a little bit later on.
You can say that babies are made when two people love each other, but please stay away from biology! Oversharing will become very complicated and will probably totally confuse your child.
How Do I Talk To My Child Who Is Older Now?
Discussions surrounding the birds and the bees will change as your child gets older. When it comes to reproduction, parents will still falter with answers and realize they’ve messed that up in the past, so what to do?
Above and beyond all else, don’t come up with something that just is not true. Your kids trust you and expect honesty from you. If you need time to think this over and get back with them, say so! It’s perfectly OK!
As your kids get older, they will have numerous questions and you will have plenty of opportunities to sit down and talk with them. Also, the older your kids are, the easier it will be for you to answer them.
This is also a time when parents can learn a few things here and there and have some golden opportunities to come up with better answers. You might be watching a show on television and during an ad your child sees a feminine hygiene product being promoted.
Do Not change the station or ask them to leave the room!
Hiding your child from reality is more harmful than laying out the facts. As many topics start to surface you will have plenty of time to answer your kid’s question and actually have a good conversation.
A good example, you’ve been notified by the school that your child will be attending a puberty discussion. This is a great moment to ask your child how they feel about this topic coming up in class.
This might be a good time to purchase some books on puberty and even on sex, as long as these books are for older children. There are many wonderful books online that have 5-star ratings that you should look into that are written for parents!.
What If Your Kids Have Already Learning Things From Their Friends?
If your kids are a little bit older and have already had conversations with their friends at school. This is the time to sit down with them and have a conversation.
Keep your conversation positive and open, don’t get all jumbled up. Ask your child what they’ve heard from friends. Ask how they feel about what they’ve learned and if they have questions you can answer. You want to get information so don’t turn it into an interrogation session.
You want to keep the conversation going so don’t jump in to correct them or cause a scene that end the conversation very abruptly. Keeping the conversation open, will help you find out if the information they received is correct or totally off base. If there are falsehoods, this is the time to correct them.
All said and done, this is a time in your child’s life that you want to ensure they are given information that is easy for them to understand. Try not to go overboard and never make them feel like they have done something wrong, they are growing and with growth comes curiosity!