Father Tries being ‘A Chinese Dad’ With Impressive Results

As 2018 follows the 2016 and 2017 trend of blaming everything that isn’t liberal Western culture for the problems they face politically, we’ve already seen a lot of stuff regarding how big bad China and Russia are ruining the world. You know, because everything was just perfect before Trump and Brexit ruined everything, right?

Anyway, one father decided to take Red Fever a little further. Having read the tales of Amy Chua, a Chinese-American, and her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, in which she tears apart American parenting culture as being weak and creating the wrong kind of results in future life for their children, many people took it VERY seriously. She was branded a racist and abused relentlessly online for basically saying what a lot of people deep know is likely true.

Anyway, when Patrick Coleman decided to read her books and see what she was really saying, he disagreed strongly with her ‘just do it better’ approach and felt it seemed a little cold. However, a few weeks beforehand, he’d decided to try and his help his first grade child with a little shock course in what things could be like. Feeling like he couldn’t come down hard and instil some discipline in the youngster, he decided to try out the works of Chua – and the results were outstanding.

“Western friends who consider themselves strict make their children practice their instruments 30 minutes every day. An hour at most. For a Chinese mother, the first hour is the easy part. It’s hours two and three that get tough.” Chua claims on one of her pieces.

So, deciding to try it out for himself, he wanted to get his children more active in doing stuff around the house to gauge the reaction and see how they handled this change. Worried that his son would fail a first grade testing that was coming because of “rarely lifting his head off the desk”, he went full-China using the methods in Chua books to try it out.

Encouraging him to practice until he couldn’t practice any more, they eventually got him doing what they intended and started to see him improving rapidly in his homework. Now, he was able to go beyond what they were being asked to do in the test, showing that the cold discipline was certainly having some positive effects.

They also tried to tighten down on excessive emotional representation, proclaiming that their concerns would only be addressed if they spoke calmly, rather than through anger and upset. What impressed them most was that, one Sunday, they split the family up to undertake a major house cleaning session as two groups. Their sons took to the jobs with absolute ease, really engaging with the chores and ripping through them at breakneck speed.

The parents were very impressed. Now, they were noticing their children were far more active when it came to dealing with academics but also that they were generally quite proud of the improvement in their discipline. If you want to know more about this story – as well as some of the negatives of this lifestyle change – we recommend you read the full article.

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