The hottest news of social media nowadays is an engagement that happened a few days ago. You probably know who I am talking about. After dating for about 3 weeks, Ariana Grande and her boyfriend Pete Davidson got engaged. Yes, the news came as a shock to us, same as it might have come to you.
People are commenting on how soon they got engaged since they were just casually dating. They have skipped a few stages and moved on to getting engaged. No one thought they were too serious. But is it ever ‘too soon’ to get engaged?
Experts have a different opinion when it comes to when to get engaged. One of the experts, Shilpa Gandhi, who is certified matchmaker and director of Amare Exclusive, says that there are few things to be talked about before getting engaged such as the future, careers and finances.
She discussed how the relationship should be progressed in the following words, “In the first couple of months it may be too soon [to get engaged] as the feelings you have for one another may be lust as opposed to love.”
“It’s best to wait until at least 3-6 months to see if the feelings you have are for real or just a fading spark of lust. You need to have emotional and rational feelings towards one another.”
She also presented a timeline which a couple goes through, the events may be different but almost all of them pass through this. Couple tend to exchange “I love you” after 5 months of meeting. Then after 7 to 8 months they might go on a trip to spend time with each other and getting to each other better. At this time they are most likely to discuss their future.
However, another expert named Sarah Louise says that it is never too soon to get engaged. By that she means that is the couple cannot live without each other and they want to spend the rest of their lives together, they should get engaged. She further adds, “When you know, you know. It doesn’t matter the length that you’ve loved, it’s about the depth in which you love. If you have met the person you connect with deeply and can communicate fully with – it’s never too soon.”
Sarah also talks about how millennial take their time to find the right one for themselves. She added, “Romantically speaking, you should get engaged only when you are truly, madly, deeply in love and really want to show an outward commitment to the world of how you feel inside.”
Another expert Ben Edwards goes back into old times when people had to meet young, get married and have children. But this is not the case as of today. There is so much diversity in our society for people to choose from. They may get engaged sooner or later, it’s their choice, and it’s up to them.
Ben says that relationship timeline is exclusive for all couples. He says, “All I would advise is ensuring you know someone as well as you possibly can before taking your relationship to the next level with gestures such as marriage and moving in together. Arguments in a relationship are inevitable, but what you argue over and how the situation is resolved or dealt with will tell you a lot about the person.”
“It is important when making life-changing decisions like moving in with a partner or getting married, that you let your emotions lead; go with your gut. If it feels right, it probably is.”
Different experts have different opinions. So for Ariana and Pete, this might not be too soon. We wish them a happy future!
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