We all know that kids can sometimes be more than just a hassle. Here are 3 misbehaviors that you should not overlook as this can set them up for failure in their future.
1. Interrupting When You’re Talking
Reason that you shouldn’t ignore it: Imagine that you are talking to somebody and your child constantly pulls your sleeve trying to get your attention. Children can be really excited to tell you something or ask you something while you are in the middle of conversation with someone. If you let them to interrupt you every time, that doesn’t teach them to be considerate of others or how to keep themselves occupied when you are busy. Psychologist Jerry Wyckoff, Ph.D., coauthor of Getting Your Child From No to Yes said: “As a result, she’ll think that she’s entitled to other people’s attention and won’t be able to tolerate frustration.”
How to put it to an end: Next time that you know you are getting a visit from a friend or when you want to make a phone call, tell your child not to interrupt you and to be calm. Have her occupied with something. For example, let her play with that special toy that you usually keep hidden or turn on something that she likes on TV. If that doesn’t work, and she is still pulling your sleeve with a need for your attention, point to a chair and quietly tell her to calm down and sit there until you are done. After that, if she is still restless, let her know that she will not get what she want if she interrupts you again.
2. Rough Playing
Reason that you shouldn’t ignore it: You must step in when your child punches a friend or playmate, but you should also react in more subtle situations, like pinching a friend or pushing his brother or sister. Parents advisor Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of Don’t Give Me That Attitude!: 24 Rude, Selfish, Insensitive Things Kids Do and How to Stop Them said: “If you don’t intervene, rough behavior can become an entrenched habit by age 8. Plus, it sends a message that hurting people is acceptable.”
How to put it to an end: Interrupt this aggressive behavior and pull your child and ask him if he understands that he’s hurting that person and how would he fell in their place. You should tell him that hurting another person is strictly forbidden. Next day, when he is going to play with friends, remind him of what you talked yesterday and tell him that he shouldn’t play rough. Practice situations with your child when he gets angry or wants a turn. Practice what he could say in those moments. If nothing changes and he still bullies other kids, take him and end the play for that day.
3. Pretending Not to Hear You
Reason that you shouldn’t ignore it: If you keep repeating yourself, telling your child five or ten times to do something that he doesn’t want to, for example, to turn the TV off or get into the car, you are actually telling him that it is just fine to disregard you and that he is the one who commands. Psychologist Kevin Leman, Ph.D., author of First-Time Mom: Getting Off on the Right Foot — From Birth to First Grade said: “Reminding your child again and again just trains her to wait for the next reminder rather than to pay attention to you the first time you tell her something. Tuning you out is a power play, and if you allow the behavior to continue, your child is likely to become defiant and controlling.”
How to put it to an end: Tell your child what he needs to do by walking to him and saying that eye to eye instead of yelling from another room. Looking at each other while talking is very important. Also, you should have him respond by confirming politely that he will do what you asked. Saying your child’s name or touching his shoulder will help to get his attention as well. If nothing works, explain the consequence of his behavior.